Whether you are 15 or 50, we all need some relationship advice from time to time.
Mind the gap – The younger you are the more you should try and date someone close to your own age. That is because we have different goals and interests at different ages, and although it can be exciting to date someone who is much older, it can be very challenging for you both when you realize how different your needs and wants are at different stages of your life. Never let an older partner control you and tell you how you should lead your life, even if he has more money than you and pays for most things. You are a free and independent person and you cannot be bought.
Sexting and Texting – As fantastic as your relationship might be right now, it may not last forever. It’s great to trust your partner and it can be exciting to send each other sexy pictures of yourself but remember that things happen, and when couples break up they are not always on the best terms. You wouldn’t want pictures of yourself going around. If you do decide to send sexy pics of yourself, leave your face or recognizable traits about yourself out of the pics so that if things don’t work out, you won’t have to worry about your ex showing everyone else your pics. Imagine if the pics fall into the wrong hands.
Many couples make the mistake of arguing or having sensitive conversations via text. This is a bad idea because it’s easy to misunderstand what someone intends to say, if they say it via a text. It’s always better to discuss these things face-to-face and at the very least talk on the phone, so you can hear the tone of the other person’s voice and how they feel about what they are saying. Breaking-up with someone via text is immature and can be a cruel thing to do to another person.
Disagreeing is normal – You and your new partner may have a lot in common, and may even be finishing each other’s sentences, but at the end of the day you are two different people, and so it’s just a matter of time before you do disagree with each other about something. Remember, it’s not the end of the world, in fact, it may be a good thing and provide you both with an opportunity to learn more about each other. You and your partner don’t have to agree on every little thing to make a good couple.
Cheating is cheating – It’s never a good idea to cheat on another person, rather break-up with the person or tell them that you are no longer interested in being together. When you cheat on someone you are also telling yourself that you can’t be trusted. People who cheat are also not good at trusting other people because they don’t trust that others won’t do what they’ve done. Remember, the way you start having relationships in your youth will determine the types of relationships you’ll have for the rest of your life. Respect yourself and the people that you choose to date by not cheating-on or lying to them.
Lay a good foundation – The relationships that we have as young people will affect the types of relationships we have when we get older. Try to be respectful, kind and considerate of the people you date now and seek relationships with people that make you feel good about yourself and don’t put you down, and then these are the types of partnerships you’ll be able to have all your life. Don’t rush to have sex and never rush your partner either if they are not ready.
If you do have sex, always use a condom and water-based lube to keep you both safe from sexually transmitted infections (STIs).